This week has been crazy. My husband has been out of town, our puppy is having her first week being home alone during the day (warranting extra neediness in the evening), and work is…well…work. In all of that, I realized that I didn’t post a blog for you on Wednesday morning. And then I got distracted and didn't write one last night. Or this morning. I’m finally getting to it now while I’m navigating around our cat who decided they need attention too.
I spent some quality time beating myself up for neglecting you. I felt like I let everyone down by missing a deadline that I inflicted on myself. Then I took a minute and thought about what I would say to my coaching clients. I would remind them that they are human. That life gets in the way of our plans sometimes. That we need to forgive ourselves for simply being human.
This is not always an easy thing for me. I like getting things right and I especially like getting them right the first time. It’s something I’m working on and one of the biggest steps is to forgive myself for not being perfect. To cut myself some slack. To recognize that something else needed my attention and that I can catch up later- or even miss a week- and the world won’t end.
Why am I sharing this? Because I’m sure I’m not the only one who struggles with this. I’m sure plenty of us on the caregiving journey are also beating ourselves up for not being perfect. For feeling guilty for taking a moment for ourselves. For letting ourselves down. For feeling like we’re letting others, or everyone, down. Take a moment and forgive yourself. You are doing the very best you can with what you have in this moment. Honor that and yourself with the gift of forgiveness.