Finding moments of thankfulness- or finding the tiny silver linings in the s**t storm that is living with dementia
Not to sound cliche, but this is a great week to find tiny bits to be thankful for. This can feel so much more difficult when living with someone with dementia. It can feel easier to identify all of the things that suck. The things that drain the life out of you. The things that make you question everything you know and believe.
Sometimes the silver lining is only that you survived today. Sometimes it’s talking to another caregiver and realizing that what’s making you totally nuts is minor in comparison to what others are dealing with. Sometimes it’s something that made you laugh (even if you know you shouldn’t have). Sometimes it’s having a moment of clarity and connection with your loved one.
It can be difficult to find something positive when every day can feel like an endless stream of crap, but I’ve found that if we get into the habit of identifying and celebrating even the smallest victories, they start to add up and fortify us. This is not the same as putting on your rosy glasses and ignoring everything else that's going on, but finding the bits to celebrate. Learning how to see the rainbow in the storm.
Find your thankful this week. Celebrate the little things. Love those around you for all that they provide (the good, the bad, and the ugly). Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.